How I started feeling enough:

Ooooof. This is a hard one and you might not like the answer to it…

You will never feel good enough as long as you are looking for validation externally.

Read that again. And maybe let that sink in a bit.

We live in a society and culture that is driven by external validation. A culture that causes your heart to stop and stomach to get nauseous because you have to prove your worth. A culture that says you will never be good enough because someone will always be better than you. This is a mindset that is so crippling; a mindset that says failure is the opposite of what it means to be enough. 

No one can define what “enough” is besides you. Enough comes from within. 

Enough is a choice you decide to make about who you already are not who you have to prove yourself to be. 

Enough is getting a compliment and smiling and saying thank you because you know it’s true. 

Enough looks like showing up to the gym and leaving saying “damn I felt strong.”

Enough is saying I screwed that up but I’ll get it right next time.

Enough is taking the day to rest because your body is exhausted and it’s what you need. 

Enough is a choice; a choice you decide to make every morning when you wake up and look in the mirror. 

How do you feel enough, though? Do things that make you feel enough. Fill up your cup and your time with the practices that align your mind/body/spirit so you feel a sense of connection to yourself. Go grab that journal, go get that yummmmmy cup of coffee you’ve been craving, go on a walk in the sunshine and let that vitamin D do its thing.

Every little detail counts when it means your wellbeing is at risk. You have to be careful what you choose to feed your mind and soul. Always ask yourself this, “Does this make me feel good, or does it make me feel less than?” And if you find yourself getting caught in a cycle of looking outside yourself or comparing yourself to others…just remember the most important thing in knowing your enough is also knowing that it’s only human to compare sometimes so don’t be hard on yourself. All you have to do is recognize how you’re thinking and choose to replace that thought pattern with affirmations that remind you of how valuable you are. 

Affirmation examples:

“I don’t have to prove my worth to anyone.”

“I am strong, capable, and a badass at what I do.”

“I love who I am and I am in love with the life I'm building.”

“I'm not gonna let anyone steal my joy, they ain’t worth it.”

You are enough. I am enough. We just have to stop letting the world try to steal that from us. Oh and getting strong in the gym and feeling good in your body definitely helps boost those confidence endorphins.